Before you become a mum, you have at least some idea of what type of parent you want to be. You know, all the things you envisioned during your pregnancy. You’ll start to think about the things you want to do, but also about everything you don’t want to do once you have a child. And then you foolishly expect that everything will go according to a plan. How silly when I think about it now.
How many times have I shaken my head at some of the habits and behaviour of other kids and parents I witnessed? Why don’t they just get a grip? Well, now that I’m a parent I know why. Because all parents do what they have to do in those not-so-easy-to-handle situations.
Here are some of the things I thought I wouldn’t do as a mum before I had my baby. But then I changed my mind. And I bet most parents find themselves reconsidering their ideas of perfect parenting at some point or another. You do that to keep your sanity, to get more than just a couple of hours of uninterrupted sleep, or for any other reason.
I will not co-sleep, never, EVER
Why would any parents let their kids sleep in bed with them? Has nobody told them how difficult it is to train them to sleep in their own beds afterwards? I will never let my baby sleep in bed with us.
We did quite well, I think. The little one always slept in her own bed. That was until she was around 6-7 months old. Then it all went downhill. Instead of her sleep habits improving as she was getting older, it was getting worse. She would wake up frequently, especially towards the morning. I would breastfeed her, and it got to a stage when every attempt of trying to put her back to sleep ended in crying. And because the exhaustion got the better of me, I gave in and took her to our bed. And I saw an instant improvement. She could feed without me having to get up, fall back to sleep and life was bearable again
She would wake up frequently, especially towards the morning. I would breastfeed her, and it got to a stage when every attempt of trying to put her back to sleep ended in crying. And because the exhaustion got the better of me, I gave in and took her to our bed. And I saw an instant improvement. She could feed without me having to get up, fall back to sleep and I finally saw some light at the end of the tunnel.
She still sleeps in our bed now. We will deal with it one day, but for the time being, we are quite happy with the arrangement.
I will not give my baby a dummy
Because you know, dummies are the worst thing ever. You are a bad parent if you give your child a dummy, they are bad for breastfeeding and so on. I didn’t want to be looked down on by other parents. Plus I don’t really like the look of them either. Small babies ok, but walking, talking toddlers? Not so sure.
However, things changed rather quickly with this one. I don’t remember what exactly was the turning point, but they have been a massive help since our little one was probably a few weeks old. A life saver. No wonder people call it a soother, or a pacifier in the US.
Ok, so she can have her dummy now, but as soon as she hits the one year mark, the dummy is out and in the bin. That was the original plan. She is fourteen months now, and the dummy is still very much a part of her life. I try to limit the time she uses them for bedtime, but we also need it when out and about if she is in her push chair for a longer period. I’m planning to get rid of it before she is eighteen months old, as it gets harder to separate the kids from their beloved soother as they become older. See how that goes.
I will not eat unhealthy food anymore, to set a good example
Ha ha ha. I failed massively with this one. When I was pregnant, I had an excuse. Everyone has some cravings during pregnancy, right? Mine was definitely chocolate and anything sweet. All right, once the baby is born, things will change. Only they didn’t. I still very much enjoy my daily dose of sugary snacks. To be totally honest, I have let myself go completely. Don’t know why I even wonder that I haven’t lost my baby weight yet.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not proud, and I still plan on beating my unhealthy habit. One day.
My baby will not eat any sugar, salt and definitely no junk food
Sugar and salt are the two main things you will hear you should avoid giving to your baby before they turn one. We started off full of hope that the little one will be the best eater on the planet.
We tried offering veggies first, then fruits but as with anything that involves babies, things rarely go according to a plan. The little one just wasn’t keen on veggies at all, and we soon found ourselves giving her some unhealthy snacks too. We gradually added a little bit of salt into her food in the hope that she would eat better. You can read more about our transition from milk to solid foods and how the reality was different from our expectations.
She has good days when she eats quite well, but also a fair share of bad days when she won’t even touch her main meal. That’s when French fries come to the rescue. She loves fruit, but she also likes biscuits and chocolate. Oh and ice cream. I think I really need to revisit the idea of setting a good example for her. Whoops.
Bribery? No way
I will not bribe her with snacks to behave. No way I’m resorting to this and letting her get her way. Ha, how naive was I? Every time we go shopping, I make sure I have some snacks handy for the situations that are becoming way too common nowadays.
Gone are the days when I had a sleeping baby in a pram while comfortably browsing the aisles in the supermarket. These days it’s in and out, as fast as I can. She just doesn’t have a lot of patience for that. So, before the situation escalates too much, I quickly shove something she can chew on into her hands to divert her attention. Works wonders and mum gets to finish her shopping. Most of the time.
Few last words
Parenting is a tough gig, and we all find ourselves in situations when we will do whatever it takes to make out lives a liiittle bit easier. Striving for perfection gets pushed to a corner rather quickly. I’m not a perfect parent, but that’s fine with me. Being a good parent to a happy little girl is way more important.
Is there anything you said you would never do until you became a parent? Feel free to drop me a comment below.